Movember Men’s Mental Health: Signs Your Mate Might Be Struggling

Movember Men’s Mental Health: Signs Your Mate Might Be Struggling

November is here, and it’s time for Movember — a month dedicated to raising awareness about men’s health. This week, we’re focusing on men’s mental health, an issue often overlooked but critically important. Men are disproportionately affected by mental health struggles, and suicide rates among men are alarmingly high. In this blog, we’ll discuss how to recognise signs that a mate might be struggling, how to support them, and even how to care for your own mental health.

Why Men’s Mental Health Deserves Attention

Mental health has become a buzzword in recent years, and while some may feel fatigued by the topic, the statistics are sobering. Men are less likely to seek help for mental health issues due to societal pressures to "tough it out." This reluctance to address their struggles often leads to higher suicide rates among men.

Factors contributing to these rates include:

• The stigma surrounding emotional expression.

• A tendency to internalise issues rather than seek solutions.

• Methods of suicide that are often more lethal.

However, mental health struggles are not solely linked to emotional wellbeing; they can also stem from external pressures such as legal trouble, personal failures, or trauma.

How to Recognise Signs of Struggle

If you suspect a mate is having a hard time, knowing the signs can make all the difference. Keep an eye out for uncharacteristic behaviours, such as:

• Changes in Personality: A shy friend suddenly becoming the life of the party, or an extroverted mate turning quiet.

• Sleep Issues: Persistent exhaustion or comments about not sleeping.

• Appetite Changes: Noticeable weight loss or gain due to absent-minded eating habits.

• Neglecting Personal Hygiene: Wearing unclean clothes, skipping showers, or not brushing teeth.

• Social Withdrawal: Avoiding social events or interactions.

• Skipping Favourite Activities: Missing out on hobbies or events they typically love, such as sports games.

• Reduced Online Presence: Going silent on social media or group chats.

• Irritability: Increased frustration or short temper.

• Expressions of Hopelessness: Comments about death, dying, or feeling like life isn’t worth living.

One critical red flag to watch for is a sudden improvement in mood after a prolonged period of depression. This could indicate that they’ve made a plan for suicide and feel relieved to have a "solution."

How to Check In on a Friend

Once you notice these signs, it’s time to reach out. A simple conversation can open the door for them to share what they’re going through. Here’s how to approach it:

1. Start with a casual yet sincere question: “Hey mate, I’ve noticed you’ve been a bit off lately. Everything alright?”

2. If they brush it off, gently press further: “Come on, mate. Honestly, how are you doing?”

3. Offer ongoing support: Follow up regularly, especially if they’re grieving or going through a tough time. Practical help, like running errands or helping with daily tasks, can be just as valuable as emotional support.

How to Take Care of Yourself

Being the “go-to” friend for everyone else’s struggles can be overwhelming. Make sure you’re not neglecting your own mental health:

• Evaluate Your Friendships: Are your friends as reliable for you as you are for them? If not, it might be time to reconsider your circle.

• Seek Professional Help: If you notice any of the signs listed above in yourself, talk to someone—a therapist, a hotline, or a trusted individual.

Addressing Common Myths About Therapy

Therapy often comes with misconceptions, but here are the facts:

• Therapy isn’t just for “crazy people”—it’s for anyone who wants to better understand themselves and improve their lives.

• Seeking help isn’t weak; it’s the first step toward solving a problem like an adult.

• Therapy isn’t about dwelling on the past; it’s about understanding how past experiences shape your present and learning new coping strategies.

• Therapists are unbiased professionals trained to help without the emotional baggage that friends or family might bring to the table.

Quick Tips for Improving Your Mental Health

Even small changes can have a big impact on your mental wellbeing:

1. Limit Social Media and News Consumption: Both can be toxic and negatively affect your mood.

2. Focus on Physical Activity: Exercise is a proven mood booster.

3. Engage in Meaningful Conversations: Connect with people who genuinely support you.

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Final Thoughts

Movember is a reminder to prioritise men’s health—both physical and mental. Whether you’re checking in on a friend or taking steps to care for yourself, small actions can save lives. Let’s break the stigma and support each other in meaningful ways.

If you or someone you know is struggling, don’t hesitate to reach out for help. Resources are available, and taking the first step could make all the difference.

If you’re looking for personal guidance in navigating these complex emotions, consider booking a 1-on-1 online consultation with one of our specialists to support your healing journey.